Why do you care so much about what they think?

By Wednesday, November 24, 2010 0 , , Permalink 0

Sometimes I have a hard time fitting in with friends because I am a single mother. Some are married, some are single, but they must not criticize me. It’s hard being a single mom and I make a lot of mistakes, plenty of bad choices. I will regret many actions in the future… the more I go through this I try to refine how I feel and to improve, but it takes a while.

Most of my friends are immune to the fact I have a child; except some that also have kids and are enthused about it. I try to have a parallel life, pretending, for most time, that I am simply single (mom). You can imagine it’s somewhat psychically confusing, but nonetheless necessary to adapt in the midst of certain single friends. In a perfect world, I would be proud of being a mom and of how accomplished I am regardless.

But this is not a perfect world people. Running across a REGRETS OF DYING study this week, here are the top things that people regret in their lives:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Of course this somewhat contradicts the study that Happiness costs $75,000 a year. If we were to take all these stances into consideration, then we would strive to be more sensitive, less ambitious, more loving, less demanding.

Of course no one wants to die with any regrets… but to live according to these guidelines it’s really hard. I have a tendency to pay too much attention to the opinion of people who really don’t affect me at all. It’s one of my biggest mistakes. The only opinion that really matters is my family’s. And this list impacted me to realize everyone does this, but then all regret it, and I don’t want to.


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